In many ways, for many people, it has been a difficult year. The economy continues to present serious challenges to individuals and families. People struggle to maintain their homes, their jobs. Indeed our entire country and our collective sense of resurgence and recovery have been threatened and battered. There have been this year terrible natural […]

I have a pet peeve to admit to: just about every time I hear the phrase “It’s time to move on” uttered, I get shivers down my spine, a reaction akin to the proverbial nails on a chalkboard. Not infrequently the phrase is uttered by politicians. And it seems to me not infrequently it is […]

There is a lot of talk these days, when there is talk about psychotherapy, about Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and its effectiveness. It seems that CBT has achieved some recognition in the American media. Although I am not strictly a CBT psychotherapist, but rather someone who takes an eclectic approach so as to be able to […]

It seems like a New Yorker cartoon. The psychotherapist in his chair and the client usually lying down on a couch. In this cliché version of psychotherapy, the therapist doesn’t say much, just nods and mutters “uh ha.” The client pays for the session and leaves. I am sure that my clients know that I […]

I saw the Aurora Theatre Company’s production of Pulitzer Prize winning playwright Edward Albee “A Delicate Balance” and highly recommend it. (It has been extended till October 23, 2011.) The play is deeply psychological. Although somewhat dark, it is not only movingly performed by a superb cast, but it also features incredible writing by one […]

Members of my profession are sometimes casually referred to as shrinks. While it seems this term was originally used to refer to psychiatrists, its application is more broadly applied these days. I’ve had clients refer to me as their shrink. So I’ve been thinking about “shrink.” It seems the first use of the term as […]

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to fulfill it.” — George Santayana The above is perhaps one of the most famous quotations known today. It is it strikes me keenly psychological. The philosopher George Santayana was a contemporary of Freud’s (I don’t know if they knew one another or their work). He was […]

It seems to me that ambiguity has a bad rap in our society. We generally don’t like what is ambiguous. We strive for clarity and focus, for being determined and resolute (somewhere in some classroom those attributes must have been set as standards). An employee, a politician, can be subject to criticism for a lack […]

It seems that in the last couple of weeks I must have heard at least half a dozen times someone remark about how fast the year is going by. It’s nearly October. Years move fast. Months move fast. Days move even faster. In fact it can seem as if all of modern life moves at […]

Much of psychotherapy is about identifying the key patterns that have developed in one’s past and changing those that no longer benefit the person. I often refer to these patterns as “templates.” Templates form through repeated experiences, and they then create a way of acting and of thinking about oneself and about others that may […]